Don’t blame your nervousness

Sometimes when I am coaching someone, we reach a very stubborn obstacle.  The obstacle holds my client back, unable to move, unable to advance.  This is what the client usually says:

“I want to do XYZ, but I am so nervous.”

I’m sorry, but being nervous is not a good excuse.

You can either love your desire (“I want to do XYZ…”), or you can love your fear (“…but I am so nervous.”).

But you have to choose.  Which one are you going to love more?

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