Don’t blame your nervousness

Sometimes when I am coaching someone, we reach a very stubborn obstacle.  The obstacle holds my client back, unable to move, unable to advance.  This is what the client usually says:

"I want to do XYZ, but I am so nervous."

I’m sorry, but being nervous is not a good excuse.

You can either love your desire ("I want to do XYZ…"), or you can love your fear ("…but I am so nervous.").

But you have to choose.  Which one are you going to love more?

When you are on your deathbed, you will look back at your life.  

Do you want to say, "I got what I wanted", or do you want to say, "I let fear rule my life"?

You only get to choose one.  Which one will it be?

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